June 14, 2010

A ransom for a life...

   
    
         I wrote a post a while ago about being an adoptee and not wanting to be my parents mission project.  I think we walk a fine line ,a line of loving as a parent and acknowledging  a "calling"  that we feel God has placed upon us as adoptive parents and as Christians.   When we have our eyes opened to the needs of children in need of families (orphans)  that line can some times not be clear.  The total shock of seeing how many children actually do wait in orphanages and being present with them at an orphanage (as you come to take YOUR child out of there)  and holding these children you leave behind you when you go is consuming.....   And life changing.   There is nothing wrong with wanting to be a parent and loving kids...  All kids need parents who want to be parents and who enjoy it!   I believe, as a Christian, we do have a duty to care for those in need.  My children who were adopted needed a family.  And some of them certainly needed rescuing from circumstances they were in.  But I did not feel like I was doing a good "deed" or building up some kind of "eternity points" with  God  by adopting them. ( I had a relative ask me if we adopted because of was some kind of Church thingy?)  They still today do not understand why we would want to adopt. Or why we would want more children...Period. I do feel that many children in this world need rescuing.  Their lives are important. Some one once said to me, "Well, if they die they will end up in heaven anyway, so that is probably best for them."  She was speaking of special needs children.  


     Every life matters to God and each person in life is here for a reason.  And each life touches us all and changes us and makes us all different.  Each life and every child is important enough to live....
I do not believe that adoptions should cost up wards of 20 to 35 thousand dollars.  But that is what they are costing now.  It is wrong and it is obscene for it to cost so much.  I had hopes that the Hague would in some way put some kind of  a limit to what countries could charge for  international adoption.  Let me say that again... for the RANSOM of saving a child's life.  Too bad it has not worked that way.  But adoptive parents who find their children can not wait till the Hague works out better.  Because children can not wait to be saved from starvation, abuse, neglect or medical intervention to save their lives. They need to be loved and be some ones own child.


     On my side bar you will see many children's faces on buttons you can click and you will be taken to sites that belong to parents who are trying desperately to adopt these children.  Most are in orphanages in Eastern Europe. (There is only one child not listed from this area).  All of these children are special needs children, most have down syndrome and other medical needs as well.  These children only have till they are 3 or 4 to be adopted. Then they are turned over to state mental institutions where they die within a year.  Bad places no child should ever have to be....


     Look into the faces of these children and please find it in your heart to help their parents raise the money needed to complete their adoptions.  These children have parents who already love them and they have lives of worth and value.  To all of us.... 
      Click the buttons and give what ever you can... it all adds up.  Bless a child and bless us all with a few more of these children who are God's own heart. 
    
     

1 comment:

Aus said...

I never really thought about it in 'those terms' - but it IS very much like paying a randsome for the child....wow.

For our part - yeah we Christian - but God never really entered in to the 'thought process' about our adoptions. We never had the thought that God was 'calling' us to be adoptive parents - we're just a mom and dad who couldn't have any more kids but still wanted a bigger family....

We did 'at some point' acknowledge that adoption is an 'altruistic good'. But - like you - it was never the motivator - we just realized that 1) We wanted a bigger family and 2) there were a big bunch of kids out there that needed families! Just a kind of a common sense decision!

And in reality - we feel WAY more Blessed by our kids than we really deserve! ;)

hugs - aus and co.