November 19, 2010

The Hard part of helping the Orphan..

     Adoption is joyful and exciting to adoptive parents.  You dream of your child and finally you get to hold and love your child.  YOUR child is finally in your arms and safe.  Every one knows adoption  is not all sunshine and rainbows and it is not all terror and worry and sadness.  Just like life it is full of both and it is something most adoptive parents are happy they got to be blessed with doing in their lives.


   I have been thinking about as a Christian, and as the church and body of Christ, what God would have us do for the many children in need in this time (as we believe we are in the last days of our time before Christ returns for the church).  Really, I do not want to waste time debating if we are called to help the orphan or not. If you are a Christian and you do not "GET" it by now you never will.  (Yes is the answer!). But what does it mean and what does that look like?  What will our lives look like? Who will we be?


   What kind of house do we live in?  What kind of car do we drive?  How do we dress?  How much do we sacrifice to help those in need?  Is it really okay to own a thousand acre ranch and a million dollar house,  even if you are an adoptive parent already.  If you have adopted already does that mean you have done your share and you can just forget about all the kids that are left?  Let some one else do their share?  How many vacation do you take a year?  Do you fund raise for your own adoption while having a garage full of toys that you could have sold?  I really do wonder all of this and I have  seen a few garages full while fund raising for adoptions goes on....  and while those who have donated to the same adoption funds are making great great personal sacrifice to do so.  I know well that most adoptive parents in fund raising are not doing this but it is out there.   In searching our hearts we must think through hard things. 


    Harry and Bertha Holt gave up being a millionaires.  They eventually sold off all their property and possessions, they camped out in the cold of winter in a tent, they prayed continually for food and for governments to feel compassion and help them.  They did the thing God had called them to do even at times when it seemed just too hard.  Harry gave his life for the orphan.  Did he do too much? Was he foolish and a religious zealot?  Grandma Holt told me once that the first social worker who interviewed them for a home study told them they were too religious.  Because of these religious zealots over 100,000 children have found families and are no longer orphans.  And many more will be helped in many ways in many countries, even now after both of their deaths, God's work for the orphan continues. Because of Harry and Bertha Holt,  we have 5 children that we would not have had if they had not obeyed God's calling and His voice.  Harry and Bertha were just like the rest of us. They obeyed and found happiness in the joy of adding children to their family.  They also got to see other families built and children's lives  saved because of God's great calling on them.   But the road of obedience is not a yellow brick road covered with  flowers. It has bumps and twists and turns and you do not know where it will take you and it can be dark and lonely as well. 


      We as parents  can do the best we can do and it does not always turn out like we thought it would.  Some parents get children who are unable to love them and some times our children get sick and die before us, even with our most heart felt prayers.  Some parents disrupt adoptions feeling that the best they can do for their child is to let some one else love them and parent them.  They live the rest of their lives feeling like they failed their child.  These parents have also given it all for the orphan.  We need to remember that obedience has a cost.  And that  this road of adoption we travel as adoptive parents does not come with a map that tells you: only 5 more miles to "happy ever after" and you will arrive there like you always dreamed you would all beautiful and smiling. 


     We need to honor each other as we travel this journey of adoption.  Because it is a road of love and hardship.  Parents need to honor first families, we need to honor those who have gone before us and paved the adoption road, like the Holts.  We need to honor those grown up adoptees who tell us all what we did wrong... even if they are yelling it.  We need to honor adoptive parents who  really do want to only love and care for their children.  We need to forgive each other for mistakes done while trying to do the best we can...that means for care takers who are mean to our children,(yes, my personal thing), we need to work hard and not give up on governments who seem to not care for the orphan.  Let us BE the change we want to see in the world.  WE need to work together for change because,  TOGETHER  WITH OUR GOD, WE ARE  A POWERFUL FORCE FOR THE ORPHAN. 

1 comment:

Aus said...

Morning Dawn - you packed a lot in there - and probably bumped a couple egos too - nice work - growth is sometimes painful (growing pains?) - but is most necessary, and we all need to take a look at ourselves from time to time!

hugs - aus and co.