February 08, 2011

Loving Vera...

    Every child who waits in an orphanage for a family to come and find them has this look when you see them in person... A longing, questioning, pleading look.  Who are you? Are you the one?  Have you come for me? Then, because they have hope,  they turn on all the charm they have and they show you all they can do.  They grab at you, they twirl, they hop, they smile the biggest they can and they physically touch you and climb on you if they are brave enough.  And some even ask you if you will take them home and love them....

   And every adoptive parent who has brought their child home and left "the others behind" knows that feeling...  You feel what that child feels who is left behind... and it never leaves you.  And it changes you.. and it makes you want to help that one you can not forget...(whose face you see in your dreams)
help them find some one who will love them.  So you come home with YOUR precious child... and you tell others about the "one left" and you pray and you keep telling about the one...

   And people say things like, "Well, you ARE kinda obsessed with adoption aren't you?  Why do you  have to keep talking about it?  What? That is too much money to pay! How can they get away with charging so much? "(As they drive away in the new SUV they are so happy with.)  After so many years as an adoptive parent I am weary of the horrible things people say as to why they can not adopt or HELP some one else adopt. Some things they say are racist, or just plain ugly things, like a child who is handicapped is not worthy of adoption or love?!  People will say ugly things, at times, just to get you to move away from them and to stop making them feel guilty for the fact that they want to only love themselves, they are just plain selfish and they do not want to spend money on a child's life.

  I know adoption is hard. I know it deeply in my soul.  I have also been blessed so greatly by it that it is worth it to me to have others think me weird, strange, obsessed or even a religious freak...  What ever...  I think of the paperwork of adoption and I am tired,  I think of trying to come up with huge fees and I am weary and sad and overwhelmed.  But I know that it is all worth it... it really is. A life is worth it. There are millions of children needing homes and families...  and it is impossible for them all to find families, I guess.  But you can try to save one... just one at at time.  And so today NOW it is about this one child. Because if this one child does not find her family today or tomorrow she will be moved to a place that is bad.  A place she will die and soon. 



        You can read her story here http://iknowyouroutthereimjustwaiting.blogspot.com/
  She looks like my grand daughters... her smile is so hopeful and she is totally beautiful. She had parents but for their own reasons they came back to America with out her.  Can you go to her site and read more about her?   Can you spread the word very quickly because she does not have time... her time is running out...

      Maybe, just maybe together we can make a difference for Vera... and she will live.

2 comments:

Aus said...

Morning Dawn - yeah - we know those comments / looks / glares (take a picture - it'll last longer!) - we know rejection - and we know acceptance and love - that unconditional one that says "I can't do it - but I CAN help you!"

And at the end of the day we're better for it.

And we know that ugly pain that makes you just want to collect them all and make them a home too.

We'll keep ya'll (and Vera) in our hearts and prayers -

hugs - aus and co.

Pam said...

Oh I wish we could have Vera! She is PERFECT.